12 May You Want Me to Set Goals? PLEASE NO!
Chore + Waste of Time
I secretly hated setting goals. With peer pressure, I dutifully set New Year’s resolutions and work-related goals were an annual, dreaded event. Sometimes the goals and their outcomes were fabulous, like competing in my first triathlon. But mostly, setting goals seemed like a chore and waste of time. I agonized over how far I should reach and whether what I wanted was really possible.
Finally, I understood my resistance. My goals were rooted in trying to make myself better in some way; to get healthier, look prettier, advance at work, have people like and admire me (yikes!). My goals were coming from an underlying, unconscious feeling that I was not good enough. No wonder the resistance!
I don’t know if you are like me, but ask yourself this: What would be possible if your goals were an expression of your passions, your joy, your creativity, and not some exercise in fixing yourself?
When your goals are a form of self-expression, you can’t help but achieve them. Read Erik Pelton’s DM blog post Marathon Man for a beautiful example of this!